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I'm less patient! What's wrong with me?

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I liken it to a person who is driving and enters an intersection just as the light is turning yellow. They decide to continue going through rather than stopping and fully expect to hear a "thud" as someone coming from the other direction hits the back of their car. You, in effect, right now are "living your life on yellow," wondering if this is the day that your husband's death will occur. Living every day that way is emotionally draining; so it is no wonder that you are experiencing what you have shared. Again, being able to talk about it would relieve some of this stress.

I wish you and your husband the best as you continue through whatever number of days he has left. Personally, I think he knows of his condition even though no one may have specifically talked with him about it. Wouldn't it be great to be able to talk freely about everything during whatever time he may have?

Best wishes,
Paul

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Paul V. Johnson, MA, is a consultant and trainer for business, industry, and educational institutions on issues related to loss and grief. He was formerly an Associate Professor of Sociology at Bethel College (MN) and Director of Aftercare Services for the Bradshaw Funeral Homes in the Twin Cities area. He has made presentations at the national conferences of major professional caregiving associations and is a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling.

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